F&Mily Guide to Supporting Your Student in College

Model Strong Communication Skills

• • It’s okay to disagree and be upset, especially during the first year of college; take 在关系被破坏之前，先休息一下，然后再回到谈话中来.
  • 公开你家族的历史，不管是好的还是坏的.
  • 表现出谈论敏感和情绪化的话题是可以的.

Provide Regular Support

• • 创建一个对你们双方都有效的交流程序:你们将如何交流? When will you communicate?
  • Let your student know that they don’t have to protect you from their problems; while 如果你希望他们做得好，取得成功，让他们知道你什么时候有空 things aren’t going well.

Practice Active Listening

• • 要在场，要有耐心，专注于你的学生所说的话 immediately find an answer. Don’t interrupt or finish their sentences; ask for clarification if needed.

Don’t Judge or Criticize

• • Admit that you don’t always know what is best.
  • 当亲子关系转变为亲子关系时，目标是平衡、开放的对话 one.
  • 提供你的观点作为你的学生考虑的东西，而不是“它是。 my way or the highway.”

Encourage Problem-Solving Skills

• • 在立即为学生解决问题之前，先检查一下自己.
  • 了解情况的真相，然后一起头脑风暴可能的解决方案，包括 pros and cons.
  • 认识到困难的情况是你的学生学习如何的机会 处理突发事件和各种生活关系.

*Adapted from 《不堪重负的大学:校园心理健康危机及应对之策 by Richard D. Kadison and Theresa Foy DiGeronimo (2004)

Know the Available Resources

有大量的支持可以帮助学生在F&M. You can share 当时间到来的时候，给你的学生这些东西，但是鼓励他们去接触这些东西 resources on their own.